My Truth – Why is it difficult being a woman? (Part 1)

Kelly Khumalo White DressWhy is it so difficult being a woman in today’s society? Why does the rest of the world fail to identify with the challenges that us women face on a daily basis; some of which we fail to overcome because of society judging us?

I would like to welcome you to my journey of healing and hope that through my experiences i can inspire you to live your truth.

Welcome to My Truth!

It was a hot summer’s day in the beginning of March. I was sitting with my best friend watching ourselves on TV, laughing and having a good time when suddenly a call came through on her phone. I could hear that there was a man on the other line who seemingly was watching the same thing we were. My best friend then looked at me and said “She’s right here, would you like to speak to her?”. I was uninterested however felt i need to be courteous and decided to humor the both of them. The stranger on the other line continued to tell me how beautiful i looked on TV and would like to meet me in person. Being who i am, i get a lot of these calls and requests, i brushed him off politely.

A week later, my best friend and i decided to go to the coast for a mini vacation. On the second day of our holiday my best friend tells me that the stranger on the phone happens to also be in the coast. I gave her the side-eye as i knew she had something to do with him being there. He met up with us later on in the day and he continued to join us for the evening. On day 3, i was annoyed by this stranger as he was coming on too strong, but in secret, i liked the attention. I was planning to leave the coast early however the stranger insisted i stay a little longer, i did.

A month later, we are back in Johannesburg and the stranger has not given up. I finally gave in and decided to go on a first date with him. I wont lie, i had fun! …and from that day he was no longer a stranger… I was in love.heart-eyes

Things between us progressed quite quickly as we were both single,

“Well so i thought…”

In getting to know each other, i had informed him of my baby boy Christian, Christian’s dad, my mom and sister. He took me to his house on numerous occasions, told me he had a baby momma whom which he was no longer on speaking terms with. We made a pact that we will not allow our past to interfere with our future, i fell in love.

We did all the things that lovers did which led to him moving into my home. It was a lovers paradise… up until the day i found out… he was married.

My world shattered into pieces…what was even worse was that the same morning we had just come from the Doctor who confirmed that we are expecting a baby. While waiting for him to come home, i realised that i had been made to believe that something i thought was so pure and so real, actually didn’t exist.

I did not know what to do, i was in love with a married man…



  • Pearl Gumede
    Posted at 14:13h, 20 October Reply

    wow interesting journey i must say.. keep up the good work nana and keep staying true to yourself. i like the way you so content with the choices you maker. stay strong and good luck for the future.

  • tebogo rachuene
    Posted at 14:32h, 20 October Reply

    wow powerful thanks for sharing with us.we love you and we waiting for part two

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 14:38h, 20 October Reply

    Ja neh…

  • tebogo rachuene
    Posted at 14:40h, 20 October Reply

    in most situations it happens like that and don’t feel bad about it,you never knew he was a married man.

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 14:41h, 20 October Reply

    :'( :'(…I love you <3

  • Sinesipho
    Posted at 14:52h, 20 October Reply

    Ow Makhumalo ???
    Inene we should never judge someone without knowing the whole story….❤❤ i can’t wait to read more

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 15:23h, 20 October Reply

    they say don’t judge someone until you walk in their shoes……….

  • ephraim magagula
    Posted at 15:38h, 20 October Reply

    Write your comment here…mmmmnm life Mara???? uzoba strong mmakhumalo….will wait 2 read more on dic

  • Asha
    Posted at 15:43h, 20 October Reply

    You are beautiful insde out. Intelligent to boot. Love your spirit angel. May you be blessed always.

  • Tsholofelo
    Posted at 15:56h, 20 October Reply

    Your inspire me in so many ways, You are a living proof that only God is in control of our lives not people! Keep slaying girl!

  • Allington mpofy
    Posted at 16:01h, 20 October Reply

    Write your comment here…yah neh its life kelly

  • Ntombi Prudy
    Posted at 16:10h, 20 October Reply

    well alot of man do not come up with the truth till you dig it out well im glad you have god still loves you and blessing you with the babies.

  • Ntombi Prudy
    Posted at 16:11h, 20 October Reply

    well alot of man do not come up with the truth till you dig it out well im glad god still loves you and blessing you as always with the babies.

    • mzimasi mngcongo
      Posted at 06:51h, 19 April Reply

      Write your comment here..

      hallow girl i happy in my soul baby when i having a chance i am real i very loving you kelly i want to find some kiss with you. you beautiful girl

  • Gontse Motheohane
    Posted at 16:18h, 20 October Reply

    What men put women through can be the worst things ever. I mean, what happened to honesty? Next page….. As the journey continues.

  • Onezwa Ndesi
    Posted at 16:36h, 20 October Reply

    Men can sometimes be so selfish and stupid forgetting that the truth always has a way of coming out. You are a strong woman Kelly, keep on bein
    g an inspiration to others♡♥♡

  • Neo sathekge
    Posted at 17:16h, 20 October Reply

    The respect I have for this woman despite her flaws which we all have but hers came with fame I take out a hat for her as she’s so strong,a woman with that strength will never back down…..

  • abigail manaka
    Posted at 17:26h, 20 October Reply

    i have nothing much to but i admire you strength gurl,just people need to understand when feelings are involved its really hard to let go.i just love you

  • kaybbee
    Posted at 17:31h, 20 October Reply

    Just found out also that the guy i am seeing is married. I love him, Im stuck I don’t know whether to end the relationship or just brush off the marriage thing. I told him we should stop seeing each other, but he says he can’t, he wants to be with me. I have been avoiding him since I found out but he calls everyday 4 – 5 times a day. It’s really hard

    • Amanda
      Posted at 09:38h, 21 October Reply

      just let the wife know and see if he will carry on following……if he does it means he cares but if he stops phoning like he use too know that he was just playing games,, Good luck I have been there myself.

  • MUZA
    Posted at 17:41h, 20 October Reply

    Its difficult being a woman! However some of the things we go through are of our own doing.

  • Nangani Hangwisile
    Posted at 17:43h, 20 October Reply

    Never underestimate the strength of a woman! Stay strong Kelly

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  • Lolo Mochesane
    Posted at 18:20h, 20 October Reply

    You are such a strong woman Kelly.

  • Matshidiso kgomo
    Posted at 18:39h, 20 October Reply

    WoW….love u kelly

  • senyane
    Posted at 19:17h, 20 October Reply

    Waiting for part 2 how I love this woman

  • Mfiki Mabaso
    Posted at 21:00h, 20 October Reply

    Write your comment here…Aw kodwa sthandwa sami wangikhalisa ebsuku nje!!

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 22:01h, 20 October Reply

    Write your comment here…makhumalo darling I admire you….U such strong women keep it up gurl slay #halala gurl

  • Lumka Dhlamini
    Posted at 23:04h, 20 October Reply

    You are a part of those we call Super Women ❤

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  • Lee ole
    Posted at 01:22h, 21 October Reply

    Oh! Men for us.. neh, interesting n sad

  • crusher kennedy
    Posted at 05:30h, 21 October Reply

    Can’t wait for part 2 be strong Kelly

  • Mzamo
    Posted at 06:22h, 21 October Reply

    You’re a nice and strong woman Kelly, God bless you and your children

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 07:53h, 21 October Reply

    Men can be selfish at times..why not tell the truth and get over with? its diffucult being a woman!

  • Andiswa Khanyile
    Posted at 08:08h, 21 October Reply

    that is a skill of a man for you… very deceiving. But I’m glad you conquered the challenge either way. Love you girl

  • Grace Mokhele
    Posted at 08:11h, 21 October Reply

    Yes. This is exactly what I have been waiting for. We all pretend to be perfect and graceful in the public eye but we are all human and go through so many challenges. Thank you for sharing YOUR TRUTH. It inspires me to tell mine…

  • Nonhlanhla
    Posted at 08:17h, 21 October Reply

    Your story is so similar to mine in a lot of ways,you are my hero Kelly… I see a lot of me in you …. You conquered and you soldier on through it all and you might not know this ,but you are my silent teacher on how to handle things. Thank you.

  • Gift Chabedi
    Posted at 09:17h, 21 October Reply

    Shoooo……reading the book ‘Kelly Khumalo story’ and now ‘my truth’ hai really u are a giant.

  • Sgqe
    Posted at 09:22h, 21 October Reply

    You are an amazing soldier keep slaying girl!

  • Tshepang
    Posted at 09:29h, 21 October Reply

    Wooow I can’t wait for part 2???

  • Palesa Rosy
    Posted at 09:54h, 21 October Reply

    Looking forward to reading more.. Life is a daily challenge.

  • Miyah
    Posted at 11:10h, 21 October Reply

    If ‘MY TRUTH’ is The Truth, then you don’t have to worry, your soul should be at rest. God will back you up, if #MYTRUTH is the truth. You don’t owe anyone any explanation. You will have the rest of your life, i.e. eternity to enjoy your truth

  • Xolelwa Ngqukuvana
    Posted at 12:24h, 21 October Reply

    Wow love you Kelly you are such a strong woman ethanda bantwana bayo

  • Jabulile
    Posted at 12:46h, 21 October Reply

    Wow Sisi u such a strong woman,thank u for sharing that. People always judge u and they don’t even know what u went through. God bless u,can’t wait for part2…keep slaying,we are behind your a 100%

  • Bob
    Posted at 13:13h, 21 October Reply

    lt is only God and yourself who know the truth.If my truth is truth why do you get workedup.Relax,take a deep breath.

  • Zee
    Posted at 15:29h, 21 October Reply

    I saw this beautiful woman last week Thursday at Rosebank mall wow Kelly life is a journey worth travelling your journey has opened eyes of many,quite selfless of you to share with the nation and educate women out there , God bless your beautiful heart and don’t forget to pray!!!

  • Zee
    Posted at 15:29h, 21 October Reply

    as I anxiously wait for part 2…

  • Jo aan
    Posted at 16:19h, 21 October Reply

    Well done Kelly you are a Star that shine’s and open all woman’s eyes!!!

  • ntororo mzwali
    Posted at 19:46h, 21 October Reply

    Im your number1 fan thsana lwam i dnt care who says what about you. U make mistake just like everyone ..who r we to judge mnxim .i love u my kelly k

  • Mrs B
    Posted at 06:19h, 22 October Reply


  • Shawn Monareng.
    Posted at 07:10h, 22 October Reply

    It would be nice to get this from Kelly’s perspective, anxiously waiting for Part 2.

  • Unomasa Kapere
    Posted at 09:09h, 22 October Reply

    I so feel with you… its like im walking. ur journey… n belief me Kelly… i went through such many times…. wish men were just honest… akways knew there was a story we didnt know behind all these… thnks for sharing such a sad n sensitive story with us….xoxo

  • Rose Dineo
    Posted at 18:34h, 22 October Reply

    Stay strong girly God knws the truth

  • Nomaza BW Dike
    Posted at 21:55h, 22 October Reply

    I love your honesty…. I chose not to ever open that closet. Thanks maKhumalo for such strong and bold attitude. #WomanUprising! love you K

  • Leera Rato
    Posted at 07:24h, 23 October Reply

    I am happy that you finally telling your own truth, you’ve come a long way and you are doing a great job raising your kids!

  • Nontlantla Njiva
    Posted at 18:13h, 23 October Reply

    Wow interesting journey If I got to say & here I found myself sharin a tear. Keep up the good work, can’t wait to hear more of this

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 06:52h, 24 October Reply

    Write your comment here…wow

  • Gcinile Mantini
    Posted at 07:29h, 24 October Reply

    will have to hear the whole story first

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 11:41h, 24 October Reply

    The truth shall set you free! Only you and God knows the truth and he is the just and fair judge. He is a forgiving God, when we come to him and repent he gladly accepts us with our shortfalls. He is God that searches the heart, he knows our ins and outs. Be true to yourself and God! The truth shall set you free.

  • Zemvelo Ntuli
    Posted at 14:11h, 24 October Reply

    I just love everything about you, I love the challeges you have faced, the truth you always want us to know ( doing drugs & how you came out) now this. Kelly keep up with living in the open. I wish you can find your soulmate now & get married. hurry! hurry! we are waiting for part two. LOVE YOU ALWAYZ MMMCHWAAAA……….

  • Mpume Zondi
    Posted at 14:21h, 24 October Reply

    Hhayi uyisikhokho going thru such pain and all these judgements but yet still look that beautiful yoo! uyakwazi ukwenza.

    Posted at 12:14h, 25 October Reply

    i salut u Makhulo #strong woman ever#i cant wait for part 2

  • Luyanda Memela
    Posted at 11:21h, 01 November Reply

    I’m glad you went through everything you have been through. it is through the heartaches, tears, struggles and cruel judgments (thrown at you) that I love you so much. Everything that has happened and is still to happen, it is because you are able to rise. #RiseMaKhumalo, for yourself and abantwana bakho abahle. I love you.

    I am a young women, I am learning from you.

  • wozabazala
    Posted at 13:19h, 15 November Reply

    eish Kelly such is life bashilo abadala bathi amadoda ayafana

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 13:58h, 15 November Reply

    Stay strong gal,
    Let them talk………..we love you hey

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  • Edward Legong
    Posted at 18:20h, 20 February Reply

    What else you can’t do Kelly? I have won toughest fights woman- you fought a clean fight in all of them. As for the issues of world not being able to identify woman; its because most guys expect woman to be woman that we want not what she is.

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